IF YOU ARE IN DANGER, CALL 911
After leaving an abusive relationship and/or after obtaining a protective order, safety precautions are extremely important. The risk of being killed by an abuser increases by 75% when a victim leaves the relationship. Family and friends may also be at risk. If you fear retaliation, stay someplace safe for a few days. Have neighbors watch your residence for suspicious activity. If you have a protective order or anti-stalking injunction, keep a copy of the order with you at all times. Have your phone number unlisted and/or change your phone number. Obtain caller I.D. and screen calls though an answering machine.
Alert daycare centers and schools that you have a Protective Order. Consider relocating to a different part of the city or even to a different state. Crime Victim Reparations may also be able to help. (www.crimevictim.utah.gov). Should you choose to remain in your present relationship a safety plan for you and your children is extremely important.
Safety Strategies: It is important for domestic and dating violence victims to practice how to get out of their home and relationship safely. It is good to know and practice which doors or windows to use in the event there comes a time to need to escape. Similar to a fire-escape plan, it is important to teach children safety plan strategies. Here are some examples of safety planning tips: Keep your purse and extra car keys where you can get to them quickly. Keep an overnight bag at a safe persons home in case you have to leave quickly. Include I.D. for yourself, birth certificates and social security cards for you and your children, money, ATM cards, credit cards, medications, mortgage payment book, etc. Alert neighbors to contact police if they suspect violence is occurring. Teach your children a code word so they know when to call 911, meet you at the car, etc. When you feel an argument coming on, stay out of danger zones like the kitchen, bathroom or the garage. Don't go near weapons or rooms without access to an outside door. BE CAREFUL!!!
Here are some helpful links that explain safety strategies in more detail:
Domestic Violence & Workplace Safety: http://endabuse.org/workplace/
American Bar Association’s safety resources:
Chinese: Domestic Violence Safety Plan: Safety Tips for You and Your Family http://www.abanet.org/tips/publicservice/DVChinese.pdf
Japanese: Domestic Violence Safety Plan: Safety Tips for You and Your Family http://www.abanet.org/tips/publicservice/DVJapanese.pdf
Korean: Domestic Violence Safety Plan: Safety Tips for You and Your Family http://www.abanet.org/tips/publicservice/DVKorean.pdf
Vietnamese: Domestic Violence Safety Plan: Safety Tips for You and Your Family http://www.abanet.org/tips/publicservice/DVVietnamese.pdf